There are many reasons for coming to speak to a psychologist. It seems to be about wanting your life to change in some way, and not knowing how to do that, and also it’s about being listened to, and being heard.
There are various theories about how psychotherapy works, and the theory in turn decides how it will happen in practice. Some approaches are more focused on processes of uncovering and learning, whereas others seem to be more focused on techniques and life habits. Most psychologists tend to have a central approach that defines them, although they will often incorporate different techniques and learning into their therapy, depending on the situation.
Most importantly, and many psychologists will agree, it is the relationship between you and your therapist that matters the most. This is because the process of change is a deeply intimate one, in which you might feel vulnerable, and so a trusting relationship will help you along this process.
It might seem strange to read a psychologist writing the following lines, though it seems important to mention that, I really believe in the psychotherapeutic process, and I love doing it, and if it would be possible, I would recommend it for everyone. On the other hand, I recognize the limitations that we face in being able to afford ongoing therapy are real for many of us, and I don’t think that that should be a barrier to getting the support that one needs.
I have worked successfully with many clients doing brief work over a period of even 4-6 weeks, with some possibly continuing at a later date, and with others in an ongoing relationship over a period of years. Sometimes it has been the presenting issues that have defined the length of our work, though with most it is the intentions that people bring into the process that define how we will proceed. This does not mean that I only work with individuals, some of the most profound and exciting experiences come from working in relationships and with family members.
I begin the process with an introductory session in which we meet and I explain the process and details, and we explore what has brought you to meet with me. We also discuss possible ways of working together and I ask you to go away and reflect on whether you feel that we can work together.
Please feel free to ask me any questions you may have about your own experience, your interest in exploring therapy, or details of my practice and I’ll get back to you as soon as I can.
If you think that you might like to work with me, please send me an email, an sms or call me to make an appointment to meet.